What questions are you asked because of how many kids you have?
I'm not really sure why, but many people whether we know them or not come up to me whether we're at the store or at the park and ask "how do you do it with 4 kids?" "Isn't it hectic with 4 kids?" , so here I am to put all the questions into perspective from my life's point of view.
1. Is your life hectic with four kids?
All the time? No, definitely not. The only real times I would say it's stressful or hectic as some may ask is when our older two aren't listening or are fighting. Other than that, it's pretty smooth sailing in my experience. We have a 10 year old, 9 year old, almost 3 year old, and almost 11 month old.
2. How do you do it with 4 kids?
You just manage life as you normally would regardless of the amount of kids you have. You make a schedule of sorts and go with the flow. Yes, it's a little tiring at times having a toddler and nursing our youngest but that was a choice I made so I got use to that aspect months ago.
3. She's almost 1, when are you guys having another?
Just because I have two sets of kids close in age doesn't mean I want to have more kids or have kids close in age again. And, even if we did have another that's no one's business but ours to decide. I am happy/content with four kids.
4. How do you manage diapers for two kids?
It's easy - you just change each child as they need changed. Simple. And the fact that we buy the super box of Parent's Choice diapers, as well as the big box of travel wipes in Parent's Choice. I almost had our toddler potty trained then his sister was born and he lost interest and still hardly wants to go, even though he does sometimes.
5. Don't you ever go out with your husband?
No, we don't go out without our kids. We did before we had our now 2 1/2 year old though, but we haven't really since then. I mean, we go with the younger two out to eat sometimes after a doctor appointment or something so I call that a date because older two are at school. Our 10 year anniversary is on March 7 and we're going to lunch at a steak place and taking younger two with us.
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Large families are awesome from a kid's perspective! If you're mad at one sibling for a bit, you can go find another to play with. Getting out is definitely hard but once you find one great sitter, you trust you will be able to enjoy a short time away which is healthy for everyone.
ReplyDeleteI agree :) Our kids enjoy playing with each other and keep themselves busy a lot of times too. It's nice that our kids are both close in age to the other (10 and 9 and 2 1/2 and 11 months). I love it.
DeleteI have five children, who are adults now. I used to get asked these same dumb questions. My husband is the baby of 15 children and his mother used to tell me stories of how people asked her dumb questions. My favorite is don't you know what causes that? My answer was priceless, why yes I do and I love it that's why I keep doing it!
ReplyDeleteSometimes, people should just not even ask questions. And my mother in law is 1 of 14 kids (13 living) but her mother passed away before I could meet her, but it is neat because all 13 come into town for a big family reunion and get a yearly photo together.
DeleteAnd that's a good comeback, I'm sure they didn't ask that again! People can be so ignorant.
I have 3 so I don't deal w/ this but on the opposite side of things, my brother only has 1 and they are forever being told how "easy" life must be w/ just one!
ReplyDeleteThats how strong and superwoman mommies are! Its stressful but its for sure very rewarding!
ReplyDeleteI have 1 brother and 3 sisters and I loved always having someone to play with. I don't understand why anyone would ask you when you are going to have another child.
ReplyDeleteMy little boy turned one 3 weeks ago and we immedietly got asked when we are having another. Like why is that anyones business?!
ReplyDeleteI have a friend that just had her 6th child. I come from a large family. My grandmother is one of 12. My grandfather is one of 10. My dad is one of 8. I only had two kids, but I had major difficulties with pregnancy, so had to stop there. I usually got asked if I was going to try for more link the rest of my family. Again - nobody's business, right?
ReplyDeleteSome people are just curious; some are judgmental. Sometimes it's hard to decipher the two. Regardless, the questions to get old.
ReplyDeleteI just think that we live in a society where people think being intrusive in others business is an okay thing to do.
ReplyDeleteI always got questions from the other side of the spectrum. My hubs is youngest of 14. Once people hear that, they always want to know when we were going to have another one. They just assume that because he's got a huge family, we'll be having that many as well. Then, when we say two is all we're having, they demand an explanation. "Why? You should be having a couple more. 2 isn't enough, blah, blah, blah. To be honest? I would get those questions from people with no kids, people with 1, people with many. It doesn't seem to matter to people that it is really rude for them to ask, let alone demand an explanation.
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