How To Deal With Common Questions When Approaching End of Life

 End of life, despite being something all of us will eventually go through, is arguably one of the most difficult stages of life to experience or watch. 

If you or someone you live is facing end of life decisions and looking at a terminal or serious diagnosis, it's important to feel ready to handle the questions well-intentioned family and friends might have. For ways to handle questions at the end of life, read on.

Grief Therapists and Help with Answers


If you're approaching the end of life, it's important to find a therapist to help you manage the normal grieving process. A trained grief psychologist will be able to help you work through personal decisions, regrets, fears, and ways to get closure. A grief counselor will also be able to give you tools when it comes to making hard decisions like making your last wishes known for your final resting place, your last will and testament, and more. They can also help you to break the news to family members, explain to children you love what's going on, and help you find answers to those difficult questions you'll be asked.

It's normal for people who love you to ask questions when they hear that you're nearing the end of life. Often, family and friends will struggle to find ways to give you hope. They might tell you not to quit treatments, to try something different, and offer alternative healing solutions. They may not understand your personal decision to move to palliative care, why you aren't opting for clinical trials, and more. A psychologist can help you set boundaries around your choices and find the wording for answers when those questions come.

Giving Honest Answers


At a time when you might be trying to determine how to decide between a cremation and a burial, the people who love you may ask questions or offer unsolicited advice on the different ways to make an informed decision about your own final arrangements. While it can be frustrating for other people to tell you how to handle your end of life choices, one way to handle these questions is to start off with an honest conversation.

Start with explaining to your family that your final disposition and treatment choices are part of what will serve to give you peace of mind. At the end of the day, it is your life, and you deserve to have your final wishes about your final resting place, funeral services, and more respected. Do what you can to make your final wishes known and put them in writing. While you don't owe anyone answers about your choices around your cremains or gravesite, having family support will help make your transition and final time left easier. Explain to your loved ones why you're making certain choices and ask them to respect these decisions.

Setting Personal Boundaries


Psychotherapy will help you learn to set boundaries around your last wishes and the ways in which you'll spend your final days. Where you can, try to carve out time for creating memories. Ask friends and family to put the questions aside for certain periods of time, so you can enjoy your time with them without worrying about what's coming next. In these times that will live on in memories forever, you'll be able to experience moments of joy without question. These moments will later help your loved ones during their healing process.

It won't be easy to answer many of the questions that come with the end of life. However, with some help from a therapist, a great support system, clear decisions, and strong boundaries, things might be easier. Start by taking a deep breath and having an honest conversation with the person you trust most about how to handle the end of life process together and don't forget to take time out to make memories to be treasured forever.

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