Need ways to motivate your child? Keep reading to find some good ways to!
Convincing
children to do things they don’t want to do can be tricky and frustrating. The
key is to allow them to motivate themselves, rather than forcing them into
things.
Use
Rewards
Using
rewards is often the first step a parent will take towards motivating their
child into doing something. But a fine line must be tread between rewards and
bribes. The difference in this is whether the child is doing it for extrinsic
or intrinsic motivation.
Extrinsic motivation is when their actions are working
towards getting a reward or prize. Whether it’s studying for a good mark,
finishing homework for a treat, or participating in a sport for football
trophies from Premier Trophies. This can be great
to get children started off on something new or as a temporary measure.
But in the
long run, the child’s interest will be shallow and easily distracted.
Intrinsic
motivation is much better in the long run, though more difficult to build. It
involves engaging in something because the activity is personally rewarding,
and the child will want to partake for their desire. This can be joining in
with a sport that they find enjoyable, playing a game that they genuinely want
to complete, or learning something that interests them.
While both reward systems are effective, intrinsic
motivation will work better in the long run, as
the child will be motivating himself rather than relying on rewards and bribes.
Speak To
Them
In order to install this deeper motivation, try talking to your child and explaining the reasons for
why you are asking them to do something. If they understand why they should
finish their homework or the importance of exercise, they may be more willing
to take part.
In the
same way, asking them why they don’t want to do something and getting a
reasonable answer may make you reconsider the tasks importance. If your child
has valid reasons for not wanting to do something, it is unfair to force it for
your personal beliefs.
Express
Your Feelings
When your
child does do something right, it is important to reward them with more than
just material gifts. Tell them how pleased you are and how their actions have
made you feel. All children want to please their parents, and knowing how happy
they have made you will make the task seem more positive in their eyes. Explain
to them how what they did was right, and let them share your pleasure and
excitement.
Lead By
Example
Your
children will pick up your habits and traits, without you or them being aware
of it. It is unfair to demand exercise and routine from them if you don’t
follow it yourself. Motivate yourself to do all the tasks that you know you
should be doing, and they will be much more willing to join in as well.
Using good
manners and correct language around them will
reflect in their conversations, and taking the moral high ground in situations
will encourage them to do the same if they ever face issues.
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